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  第一个让我有所触动的故事来自于电影《三块广告牌》。当一个人知道自己身患绝症，又遭遇指责跟不被理解，他会做出何种反应呢？当警长威洛比用毛巾遮住头，朝自己扣动扳机的那一刻，说实在的我真想骂他一句懦夫！圣经上说不可杀人，一个人仅仅因为绝症加变故，就选择放弃，做出这样的事情，不怕下地狱吗？可是随着电影情节的推进，一封又一封的信件打开女主心结的同时也打破了我原有的偏见。一个人为了不拖累家人，为了消除仇恨，哪怕不被人理解甚至误解，他都要安排好一切，然后做出那样的选择。这到底是勇敢还是懦弱呢？这样的人死后应该去天堂还是地狱呢？我开始有点搞不明白了。。。 在我还到处寻找答案的时候，刚巧又读到了和菜头的《 老白歧路亡命14年纪念》 ，于是我用整个春节刷完了《绝命毒师》全6季62集。看完之后，感触最深的是老白问了两次的那个问题：Why me？这也是很多癌症患者以及所有处于各种不幸中的人们在夜深人静时质问了无数次苍天/佛祖/上帝却得不到回应的问题。 聪明的老白每次都没有在这个没有答案的问题上纠结。第一次思考这个问题的时候是他刚知道自己得了肺癌，他绕过这个问题而是用行动去回答了另外个没有问出声的问题：我死了，老婆孩子该怎么办？---想尽一切办法让给她们留点钱【73万4千美元】，让她们生活过得更好一些，起码保证生活品质不会降低！ 而一个普普通通的高中化学老师，一个穷途末路却依然想着自力更生，不食嗟来之食的人，在这个凡事都要付出代价的年月里，他除了自己的化学知识还有什么能够变成钱来留给孤儿寡母呢？于是他义无反顾地走进了那个刀光剑影、尔虞我诈的江湖，成了大毒枭海森堡。 幸运的是他根基扎实，也足够聪明，躲过不少明枪暗箭的同时为求自保也犯下不少罪行，杀害了好几个人。当他攒够钱，安顿好妻儿，准备自己只身带着罪恶下地狱时，上帝却仿佛没有玩够他一般：他的癌症经过治疗要痊愈了！这让他第二次问出那个无解的问题：Why me？是呀，病有机会治好，可是犯下的罪又怎会随风飘逝，杀掉的人又怎么可能死而复生呢？他该怎么办？他会怎么办呢？ 后面的故事很精彩，可是跟癌症的关系不是很大。感兴趣的朋友们可以自己去搜索来看看，这里我们就直接跳过来到大结局。从大结局往回看当初的选择到底是对是错呢？对于老白来说，这个结局不算完美，但也是死而无憾，happy ending。可如果我们从小粉、斯凯乐、汉克这些老白家人们的角度...

  今天跟小孩一起读《和大人一起读》，里面有一篇日本作家新美南吉的作品，大儿子一听不乐意了，嚷嚷着说：日本人写的？我才不要读！ 我问：为什么？ 他答：日本鬼子都是坏人！ 再问：那你喜欢读谁的呢？ 再答：孔子。与朋友交，言而有信，是可忍，孰不可忍！ 我接着问他：在孔子那个时代，我们其实是外国人你知道吗？ 他： 啊？ ？？ 我接着找来地图，圈着山东告诉他 ： 你看孔子是春秋时期的鲁国人，也就大概在这个地方，而我们广东在那个时候还不属于任何一个国家。 对我们的先祖来说，孔子就是外国人，但是现在，他却成了我们这些后代文化传承的一部分。 那有没有一种可能，我们这个年代不同国度的作家 们在未来也会成为地球村一个共同的文化记忆跟标识呢？当地球上的后辈们有朝一日踏入星辰大海，遇见来自不同星球的外星人，他们回忆起这个母星上的一切，会不会所谓的国界感什么都消失不见，只剩亲切感呢？ 孩子还是不明白： 可是他们侵略过我们的国家呀！ 我叹了口气，继续开导他： 是的，没错，几十年之前的大部分日本人确实坏透了。 准确地说，是任何时候任何采取极端主义的人都是坏透了的。正因为如此， 我们的爱恨更应该有具体对象跟具体原因。 举个简单例子： 你昨天调皮捣蛋、没大没小，我昨天惩罚过你，今天还能不能因为昨天的事再罚你一次？ 他摇了摇头： 凭什么？ ？ 我接着问： 那我能不能因为你调皮捣蛋搞破坏就惩罚你的弟弟呢？ 他想了想狡黠地说： 可以，谁让他是我弟弟呢！ “那这样的话你弟弟下次犯错我就惩罚你了哦” 他慌忙说：那好吧，谁犯错谁承担！ “嗯嗯，孔子说过知错能改。。。。” “我知道，我知道！知错能改善莫大焉！” “孔子又说过己所不欲。。。” “己所不欲，勿施于人！”孩子摇头晃脑地抢答道 “没错，日本就跟你一样，昨天犯错了该打打，该罚罚。但是惩罚过后该怎么相处对未来更好，让大家都生活得更好我们 就 应该怎么去做。人不能活在过去，要拥抱未来，知道吗？” “嗯嗯，那下次我有好的意见你也要听我的！” “可以，有自己的想法都要勇敢表达出来，谁的方法更好我们就用谁的方法哈” “好，我一定能想到比你更好的方法的。弟弟，弟弟快过来，我们一起来读这个《小狐狸买手套》吧”

 Today, I was reading "Reading Together with Adults" with my sons, and there was a story by Japanese author Minakami Nankichi. When the eldest son heard this, he became unhappy and exclaimed, "Written by a Japanese person? I don't want to read it!" I asked, "Why?" He replied, "Because Japanese people are bad guys!" I asked again, "Then whose work do you like to read?" He answered, "Confucius. 'In dealing with friends, trustworthiness is of utmost importance. If promises are broken, then what can be tolerated?'" I continued, "Do you know that during Confucius' time, we were actually foreigners?" He said, "Huh?" I found a map and circled Shandong, telling him, "Look, Confucius was a person from the State of Lu during the Spring and Autumn Period, approximately in this area. But at that time, Guangdong, where we are from, did not belong to any country. To our ancestors, Confucius was a for...

 The first story that touched me came from the movie " Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri ". When a person knows that he is terminally ill and encounters accusations and incomprehension, how will he react? The moment Sheriff Willoughby covered his head with a towel and pulled the trigger on himself, I really wanted to call him a coward! The Bible says not to kill. If a person chooses to give up just because of terminal illness and accident, isn’t he afraid of going to hell if he does such a thing? But as the plot of the movie progressed, one letter after another opened up the heart of the heroine and at the same time broke my original prejudice. In order not to drag down his family, to eliminate hatred, even if he is not understood or even misunderstood, he has to arrange everything and then make that choice. Is this brave or cowardly? Should such a person go to heaven or hell after death? I'm starting to get a little confused. . . While I was still looking for ans...

人创造了恶魔 却对其一无所知  后来又造了神 却还是一样 Man created the Devil But know nothing about them Then created the God but nothing has changed

  Origin of the Incident: On April 7th, China Newsweek published an interview with the manager of the Meixue Bingcheng (Honey Snow Ice City) regarding the child labor incident. After reading it, like many other netizens, I wanted to know if the young girl had been properly taken care of. However, despite searching the entire internet, I couldn't find accurate results. So, on April 9th, I contacted the official "Zhejiang Province Citizen Complaints" platform to request a public response about the girl's situation and to address the concerns of the public. Yesterday, on April 19th, I received a response from the Tian Tai County Comprehensive Administrative Law Enforcement Bureau. The reply is as follows: Hello, We have received your report at our bureau. Based on relevant laws in Zhejiang Province, we have punished the shop operators involved in illegal labor practices and have informed the relevant departments and streets about the individual's situation. Currently...

 A few days ago, in the conclusion of my open letter to China News Weekly, I wrote, "Finally, I would like to say to those friends who, after reading the reports, take a stand with Meixue Bingcheng (a fictional city): Kindness can help some people, but only institutions can help everyone." Some friends who have read the original text may find the ending abrupt. It was initially intended as an open letter to the magazine, so why did it suddenly shift focus to ordinary people? Firstly, as a non-professional in the media industry, I cannot provide them with more professional advice; I can only touch upon the subject. Secondly, the only requirement we have for all news media now is to not be so biased next time. However, achieving this goal cannot be accomplished solely through one article. The most crucial factor is for readers, viewers, and netizens to possess higher discernment and thinking abilities, vote with their feet, and compel news media to improve their professional s...